i feel guilty for kissing another guy

You're the worst! There's a difference between sex and kissing. Not just, here's your marriage license good luck. (Sorry you got cheated on. What is he supposed to do with this information? I hadn't been out drinking for about 3 months beforehand, so think the excitement of the night, constant glasses prosecco and wine, and the buzz of just being all dolled up all mixed together to see me very giddy and tipsy. I'm not telling him because I don't want to mess this up. In essence . I want to break down and cry. The straight women in the girls-french kiss-girls video were all shocked at how gentle and 'non-aggressive' female kissers were, in comparison to guys. When we went to bed that night, I started crying because I realized what had happened and I felt confused and guilty all at the same time. If it were my husband, I would be upset too, because that would be so out of character for the man I know. Better safe than sorry. Houston, we have a problem. The drunk part won't matter to him because his mind will only think about the kiss. I practise what I preach, me. Is kissing someone else when drunk cheating? Talk to her about it and explain to her how it hurt you to see them kissing. It felt so wrong and taboo yet so erotic and a sort of thrilling jealousy! You might feel guilty about it the next day, but it wasnt a big deal. A forum community dedicated to married life between you and your spouse. I don't see any good coming from me confessing, only hurt and upset and doubt, and think my time would be better spent working on my relationship, and working through the issues that are putting so much pressure on us at the moment. He cared less what families they belonged to if they worked in the same positions, they had the same contract rules to follow. If you kissed someone while you were drunk then perhaps you are worried about doing it again. reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2006): A To tell versus Not to tell (and everything that has a bearing). Many people who get drunk become more amorous, and if our significant others arent with us at the time of our drinking binge, we might be inclined to kiss or even have sex with someone else because were not playing with a full deck when were drunk. male Social media, the Internet, texting and so on. If he's like meI can forgive the actbut not the lying. If you. You cheated. Any help or advise would be much appreciated. As one young man said " time heals" and he's so right. (*'I know, your right, it's just I'm really attracted to you and couldn't not act on it, I'm sorry, you're right'. And Brodie groped James. Lees theory has a big vulnerability. I tried to flag down a taxi but it ignored me and I even hid behind a wall at a garage while he took a pee. I didnt blame the alcohol because I knew I had feelings for my piano teacher, and I didnt want to pretend the feelings didnt exist. He never says this so I knew it was something serious. - GET THE FUCK OUT. You kissed a guy - Possibly unforgivable. Please help me. You might come to the conclusion that something is lacking in your primary relationship, and you might decide to break up with your partner and pursue the person whom you kissed while drunk. Genie, I think being honest is always the best because. I am the same way. ;-). I dont know which country u belong from but where i live I don't think men here like us to talk to strangers , men are our protectors and the bread earners, men on the whole are possessive of their females all around the world specially in case like yours if you have been too much loyal to each other,however if we assumed both of u to be flirt or too outgoing-means in case of slping wid ppl etc then u could share an event like a normal secretbut remember this is not merely a secret its equal to CONFESSING A CRIME/yes disloyality is a crime another man can not touch u after u r marryd to sombdy-if i take myself into account i can never allow any guy to touch me its only my hubbys right to see and love me even he says my loyalty is his most precious asset:) so if u do confess then he forgives or not for ur crime is his decision- I would recommend you should avoid telling him n you should change your job or timings as soon as possible because he that boy may try to exploit the situation tell your hubby though it has little chance but still you should be careful. No, you don't. He is my workmate also. But please seperate the issues. (SK: no, it's just one of those places that's never appealed, holiday-wise, no doubt exacerbated by the fact I don't like long-haul flights for how they literally do my head in (think it's the aircon gas plus oxygen deprivation (don't get me started)) often lasting for a whole week afterwards, which isn't exactly what I call having a nice time.) It was important to hear the argument for doing what is right. When we got there the drinks flowed again , and more laughter and story telling. Needing to hear this guy tell you it was OK- It was not OK. Despite their passion during the kiss. One way to alleviate guilt is by taking action. After he gave me a drink we started kissing and I felt terrible.He then asked me to sleep with him. Relationships are about trust, first and foremost. I feel like my husband deserves so much better, but can't tell him because the guy isn't some stranger, he's a person I see 5 days a week, and I know if tables were turned and I was in my husbands position I would wonder what interactions were happening between the two in work everyday. reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2006): A but all of a sudden I feel REALLY angry. Right,undoubtedly you didn't say what Tillybops wanted to hear. Ashley Madison helped things along with extramarital affairs. Add your answer to this question! Make lemonade out of them. I also agree with SUSIEDQQ that is won't be the worse thing that will ever happen to her or her marriage. Lets get down to the basics here. ?We were doing well and I was afraid he would never forgive me. He also sent me a mean text that said for me to go f myself and to stay away from him. I read or heard somewhere that the only good thing that comes of guilt is to prevent you from doing it again. female My wife left me because I had become emotionally unavailable. Are you sure you didnt have sex with him/her? (PS: These 'recent issues' of yours. Im also pleased that you agreed with my argument as to when to fess up and when to keep your mouth shut. If this is bothering you, then tell him. It really depends on the dynamics of your relationship though. As time elapsed, I realized that I was attracted to him and this began to concern me. Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? But you can control whether you nurture the crush or acknowledge it and move on. I totally regret my actions and cannot bear to tell my boyfriend. Lee, thats a good way to CYA - pretend youre talking about this as if it happened to someone else and then gauge your partners reaction. And now you - who finds trust difficult - have been tempted to do your OWN test (already commencedwhilst drunk), approached via the psychological end. When the night was over one of the women said we could go back to hers for drinks, and I was happy to go. Oh yes he has cried a help of a lot. My wife wants to leave because of this. Then the accusations begin, which night go something like: Why on earth did you kiss _________? I feel sorry for those with depression, mental illness, hangnails, bad hair, bad childhood memories, etc. ;-D. Ahhhh you're back! Lee.. you are too funny. Biological ones. Even despite it included you having to become whatever degree of a low-down doity adulterer. One is your marriage, the other is a relationship with a married man with family. In a way you are trading his peace of mind for yours, do you really think that you will accomplish anything by doing that? Have a happy day every one. View related questions: If you think that straight guys are too macho to experiment with same-sex kissing, then yourewrong. Whoever did it, doesnt matter. I told him later that I thought it was misunderstood and apologized. He is a good person and a good husband and I love him very much. Any advice guys? Anon Pink, 20 ways to speak Love & Admiration to our husbands. Best to start your own thread, like I say, if you want, where you could 'whistle while you work' to your heart's content. That was crazy' and other awkward things. Damn, my husband is such a good person and we were together for almost 7 years now. My SO and I had been dating two years. I knew this was wrong but my brain wasn't working properly. Your punishment is living with this. I don't know if he wants to still be friends with her on FB or not. A female friend of mine was staying at our house for the weekend. ;-)) My piano teacher didnt behave like his normal, reserved self and he made suggestive comments to me. Please tell me I will stop feeling like this. Live with the soul crushing guilt you earned, or lose your BF. At least I'll know I've done my bit to the very best of my capability. Please help. female You mentioned foreplay as being the main gate. It's just a "good weekend?" Unfortunately, even these last few asides are tantamount to a forum no-no called thread mutineering. I kissed another man four years ago. Make it up to him by being an awesome girlfriend. So if life hands you lemons, don't HIDE them where they could one day trip you up or cause a rotten stink. All night I chatted and joked with a group of maybe 10 people, mostly women. I sent the guy packing with a friendly piss-take (whilst deliberately flashing my ring), and then told hubbie the minute I got home. But not good enough and you not happy enough to exclude fore-foreplay (open-mouthed kissing) with someone (*ugh) other than him as per the for-life contract? I think they all count as cheating and I'm not sure it's necessary to make a distinction. It sounds like you are projecting your own fears onto him. This feels huge to me. Shes Colombian and very fiery. I myself will have to comment tomorrow, now, although maybe SK and anyone else would like to join in in the meantime? DON'T: Kiss and tell to someone you're kissing. And I have never cheated myself. ;-)), Back too Ya My Sistah from another mother!! Life's a bleedin' mystery, ain't it? It how you deal with it that makes the difference. End of story. The 2 Most Psychologically Incisive Films of 2022, The Surprising Role of Empathy in Traumatic Bonding. By having a relationship with someone else and then just disappearing off it made things so much more complex for me, him and particularly the DC. Hi Scope! Wow, you really do want a baby, don't you. New Mexico sunsets flat lands breathtaking. My opinion, fwiw, is that what you did was not that bad. And he kissed me and I reciprocated. What did she say? I think a real man actually kisses a dude at least once to really know your sexuality, one says. However for the next time please be careful and never do such a blunder because he's a gem and you should not lose him just for your stupid or foolish acts .i mean any sophisticated or a ONE MAN WOMAN (a proud title for me :) and hopflly for u too ) wont like to stress her relatn or leave a man whom she loves or take him in a position where he might leave ? A certain someone might read it. It ended up leading to a follow-up video of straight girls kissing other girls for the first time. reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2005): A Is kissing someone else when drunk cheating? I wasn't there but news travelled fast and I knew about it through friends by the next morning. :-)), SOULMATE: Meant as in the universe of sisterhood (wrongly) To award Biggest B*lls on the Block Award -comment never was to imply same race- so on behalf of the Academy I accept :), (Good stuff. We finally mended fences, but there still is a type of tension between us. We may share information about your use of our site with trusted advertising and analytics partners. I was dumped.so why do *I* feel guilty? As for what we believe about kissing being the gateway to sex (specifically foreplay, which itself is the main gate): if anyone believes it *isn't*, thenwellAll I could say to that is: You went and MARRIED someone who was your best FRIEND, not your Bam!, Pow!, "oh my god there is a god!" ;-)). She confessed to loving the experience and enjoyed the thrill knowing she had her husbands permission and he was watching her. JavaScript is disabled. LOL He's a work colleague by the way, and we would get on well in work but have no contact outside of work). There was a lot of biting and groping going on, because, you know, the guys were giving it their best shot. Once was after we'd had a bit of a heavy talk earlier, and the other two were after we dropped one of the little ones off at the grandparents and he started talking about if it gets easier to leave a child (ie when you have weekend contact and you have to drop the child back off at the end of it.). He screamed and raged and then left to the lake and sent me a text saying he cannot trust someone who would make an unwise decision like that. Yesterday night we went out to drink. I guess it's the nature of the topic - emotive yet one of those Grey areas. It's not the crime that counts, it's the time. HIKARI, you can't take up an obsolete thread as your own, no matter any similarities, so if you want feedback and advice it's best to start a new one (and copy and paste that post into it as your opening post), okay? 07/12/2015 22:05. I didnt want to cheat on him and I made up my mind it wouldnt happen again. The playing field is even now according to statistics. And he grabbed my waist!. Period. I was drunk but that is no excuse. PostedNovember 9, 2014 Why? So if your planting includes a blight (guilty secret), please don't moan if it affects the crop yield. instead of: I am not someone that cheats on people, I am just a nice lad who gets carried away in the moment when drunk. Jam, your wife holds the cards. Me, I can't believe committing adultery isn't an actual crime yet. Certainly, that's what I myself meant and expected you to quote Bienne as more or less echoing. I could go on about a lot of things here. It didn't feel real. If I receive a text from someone that is flirtatious in anyway, I test the person back and tell them that I do not want anymore flirtatious texts and if we are friends then they need to respect my relationship. If you are carrying so much guilt, it's generally a sign that you care a lot about someone and you are really sorry for what you have done- perhaps he realises this. What? I'm going to keep my distance from my work colleague and I'm going to ensure nothing like this ever happens again. I had a kind of aha reaction because I realized I was attracted to him. Updated January 27, 2023 by ReGain Editorial Team. My libido is sharper when Im sober, at least if Im really attracted to a guy and have the love goggles on.

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